A Fortress is a Lonely Home

Have your boundaries become the fortress that keeps bad folks out, but also the good? I can relate. I never quite understood why I had so few friends compared to others, or why no one seemed to understand me. It’s very lonely inside the fortress.

Continue Reading →

Weak and Wobbly Walls

I love old houses and historic buildings, but it can make me nervous when the floors creak and the walls whistle with the blowing wind. If your personal walls are weak and wobbly, watch out! It’s time to fix that poor construction!

Continue Reading →

Why Did I Draw These Borders Here?

Everyone of us is like her own little country. And every country has boundaries or borders. Some are more lax than others. Some have checkpoints and soldiers stationed there. Have you discovered what type of boundaries you have? Are they good or bad? How can you find out? How can they be repaired or rebuilt?…

Continue Reading →

Protect Yourself with BHB**

** Building Healthy Boundaries Consider this proverb: “Good fences make good neighbors.” I have no idea of the origin of this old phrase, but it still rings true physically as well as emotionally. Good emotional boundaries keep us safe and they are part of establishing good, healthy relationships. Good emotional neighbors, if you will. How…

Continue Reading →

Little by Little, With Some Giant Steps Thrown In

Have you learned how to trust God in everything? Yeah, neither have I. However, I am grateful for those experiences (see my “About” page and “In God We Trust?“) that helped develop what trust I do have. These events of the 1990’s laid the foundation for the biggest trust-developing episode of my life.

Continue Reading →

Number One, Looking Out for Same

Do you trust no one but yourself? Do you always find yourself looking out for number one? Someone who only trusts herself tends to be very suspicious, tense and lonely. If you can’t trust others, it’s hard to share your problems. It’s hard to be yourself when you don’t trust others to accept you—and others…

Continue Reading →

In God We Trust?

I really hated it when people in church would say, “Just trust God. He’ll take care of you.” How dare they give me such a simplistic answer? Later I discovered the problem

Continue Reading →

Do You Trust God?

While thinking about trusting others and yourself, don’t forget there’s a third party to consider. Do you trust the One who is most trustworthy? The Bible is full of admonitions to trust God. Unfortunately, many of us grow up fearing Him instead. I’m not talking about the “awe and reverence” kind of fear that is…

Continue Reading →

Why Did I Ever Trust You?

Have you ever given your trust before someone earned it? I have, and boy, did I regret it! Like me, you probably beat yourself up later for being stupid or gullible, or any of the myriad of insults we come up with. “How could I have been so stupid? I should have known it was…

Continue Reading →

Relationship Reliability: Who Do You Trust?

“Come on, trust me.” Has someone ever told you that, or words like it? Did you trust them just on their say-so? Maybe you did, but I’ll bet they had some sort of authority, like a cop or fireman. Otherwise, if we haven’t had a chance to know someone, to learn their abilities and habits,…

Continue Reading →