Lonely in a Good Marriage

IF ONLY . . . now those are two pretty worthless words: If only I my husband was Godly; If only he was kinder; If only we had more in common; If only I was in a truly good marriage, I wouldn’t get lonely. Sorry. That just isn’t true. Loneliness can occur in the best…

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Unknown and Lonely

There is an old saying about being the loneliest when you are in a crowd. I’ve found it’s often true. However, it’s not being surrounded by strangers that leads to loneliness. If that were the case, folks who love “people watching” would be seriously lonely. No, what often leads to loneliness—in a crowd or with…

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Misunderstanding of “Laying Down Your Soul”

I can hear you asking, “If we keep preferring one another, how do we keep from going around in circles with no one making a decision?” That’s so frustrating! And it loses the concept of allowing God to give us His desires. If we know, surely and deeply, that He is operating in our lives,…

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Love is Laying Down Your Soul

Laying down your soul for someone else sounds like an impossible task, doesn’t it? It sounds like a recipe for pain and further emotional damage. The thing is, you can’t truly lay down your soul for another until you lay it down for yourself.

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Love Fights Loneliness

How do we defer our desires? Think about this: are your desires loving? Are your desires holy? Could they be destructive to anyone else? Could they eventually be destructive to you? Psalm 37:4 tells us to delight in the Lord and He will give us the desires of our heart. Have you let Him provide…

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Lonely in our Selfishness

I know you’ve heard John 15:13. This oft-quoted verse says, “Greater love has no man than he lay down his life for his friends.” Sometimes it’s used in funerals or other memorial tributes. The trouble is the translation of “life” is inaccurate.

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Unloved and Lonely

During my freshman year of college, I had a wonderful suite-mate who was a missionary kid. This was her second year of college in the States; the rest of her education had been in boarding schools. I’ll call her Susie.

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Lonely in a Crowd

Have you ever gone to a party and felt alone? Have you been alone in a crowd while shopping? Did either situation make you feel lonely?

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Alone Does Not Equal Lonely

Are you alone, lonely, or both? Being alone is not a prerequisite for being lonely. Doesn’t seem quite logical, does it? Physical aloneness is absolutely necessary from time to time. And not just for the obvious personal reasons like showering or changing clothes!

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One is the Loneliest Number

I remember an old Star Trek episode where an alien (who was part of some sort of biological collective) borrowed Spock’s physical body to accomplish a task. As the alien was acclimating to his new environment, he made a plaintive comment: “Oh, so alone. How can you stand this loneliness?”

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