Using Your Authority on Your Own Behalf is Not Selfish
Were you taught as a child to never vote for yourself, to always let others go first, and to not be selfish? Me, too. However, using your God-given authority to help yourself is not only permissible, it’s imperative. And it definitely is not selfish. It’s a powerful, God-given weapon.
Drop Your Weapons!
The raging bull never cares about running over people. Stomping, goring, and snorting to achieve his ends is a way of life to him. His weapons are part of him. He can’t put them down. How about you?
A Fortress is a Lonely Home
Have your boundaries become the fortress that keeps bad folks out, but also the good? I can relate. I never quite understood why I had so few friends compared to others, or why no one seemed to understand me. It’s very lonely inside the fortress.
Weak and Wobbly Walls
I love old houses and historic buildings, but it can make me nervous when the floors creak and the walls whistle with the blowing wind. If your personal walls are weak and wobbly, watch out! It’s time to fix that poor construction!
Why Did I Draw These Borders Here?
Everyone of us is like her own little country. And every country has boundaries or borders. Some are more lax than others. Some have checkpoints and soldiers stationed there. Have you discovered what type of boundaries you have? Are they good or bad? How can you find out? How can they be repaired or rebuilt?…
Protect Yourself with BHB**
** Building Healthy Boundaries Consider this proverb: “Good fences make good neighbors.” I have no idea of the origin of this old phrase, but it still rings true physically as well as emotionally. Good emotional boundaries keep us safe and they are part of establishing good, healthy relationships. Good emotional neighbors, if you will. How…
Number One, Looking Out for Same
Do you trust no one but yourself? Do you always find yourself looking out for number one? Someone who only trusts herself tends to be very suspicious, tense and lonely. If you can’t trust others, it’s hard to share your problems. It’s hard to be yourself when you don’t trust others to accept you—and others…
Why Did I Ever Trust You?
Have you ever given your trust before someone earned it? I have, and boy, did I regret it! Like me, you probably beat yourself up later for being stupid or gullible, or any of the myriad of insults we come up with. “How could I have been so stupid? I should have known it was…
Relationship Reliability: Who Do You Trust?
“Come on, trust me.” Has someone ever told you that, or words like it? Did you trust them just on their say-so? Maybe you did, but I’ll bet they had some sort of authority, like a cop or fireman. Otherwise, if we haven’t had a chance to know someone, to learn their abilities and habits,…